Today I want to talk about helping others. And not necessarily THAT piece of it but the opposite piece of it which is accepting help from others.
This has been a process for me, because I’m not very good at it. But I actually run into a lot of people who are not very good at accepting help either.
I own my own business, so one of the great things about that is you do a lot of fun things. But if it’s a small business, you do a lot of things that are not particularly your strengths.
I had a task that I was really stuck on, like stuck STUCK. I’d been avoiding it and trying to willpower my way through it, but I was just not moving. On the phone with a friend I mentioned this, and she offered to help me. And I accepted her help. But it got me thinking that not too long ago I was really bad at that.
And why? Why is it hard for us to accept help?
Really it’s just because our ego gets involved (of course). We start getting ego messages that might sound like…
I don’t want them to think I can’t do it.
I don’t want to think I can’t do it.
I don’t want them to sacrifice their time or effort for me. I’m not worthy of that.
But that’s just all ego-messaging, right?
I’ll extend this even further. Here’s another thing we’re not good at which is sort of similar. Accepting compliments.
When somebody offers to help us or somebody gives us a compliment, they want us to feel good. They want to make somebody else feel good. The spirit is the same.
And it’s the same thing when we don’t accept those compliments or we dismiss them.
Oh this old thing, it’s so old.
Oh I just threw that together.
We diminish that compliment that they’ve given us which means we are robbing them of that great feeling of having made somebody else feel good.
And really, this whole human experience is supposed to be in partnership. We’re supposed to be connecting with each other. We’re supposed to be helping each other. AND we’re supposed to be accepting help from each other. That’s the only way it’s going to work.
What I would like to do is challenge you (if you are somebody who struggles with this also). To accept help from someone.
At the minimum, try to accept the next compliment that someone gives you and just say, “Thank you.”
If you can go beyond that…the next time someone offers to help you say, “Yes. I would love that.”
If you are super brave, you could go ASK for help if you need help somewhere.
Realize that people want to help us without any expectation of something in return. That’s why we’re together on this beautiful earth.
Enjoy the challenge! I would love to hear from you. You can comment or message me. I’d love to find out how that went if you’re working on that area, too. Like I have been.
Until next time!