Half Empty, Half Full
I’ve been through trauma. I’ve suffered loss. I can’t do what other people can do. I can’t have what I really want. I’m stuck in this relationship. I’m stuck in these circumstances. I have mental limitations. I have physical limitations. These are things I hear in...
The Beginning in the Ending
Do you even like that person who just broke up with you? Honestly? Take away all the history and memories and pretend they just walked into your life, fresh in this moment. Do you like who they are? Forget all the potential you saw in them or the relationship and...
The Closure Catch
Closure: a comforting or satisfying sense of finality That’s straight from the dictionary. Have you ever had someone break up with you and it feel comforting and satisfying? Yeah, me neither. If we’re honest with ourselves, we really want these three things when we...
Five Ways You’re Keeping Yourself and Your Relationship Stuck
Relationships aren’t steady things. They’re fluid and moving. They have to be, because people are always changing (in good or not-so-good ways). That should be expected, not surprising. It feels awesome when we’re bounding forward, experiencing new things together,...
Believe What People Show You
I’ve gone through my share of friendship break-ups and boy, have they been painful. I think it took me about three years to recover from one of them. I don’t want that suffering to be for nothing, so I always try to repurpose the pain as a lesson. What can I learn...
Note From a Recovering Control Freak
When you’re a control freak, you send a clear message to the people in your life. I don’t trust you. That’s not great for relationships. I grew up in a small house with a lot of people. If we forgot to grab the milk or miscounted the forks at dinner, it was never a...
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