What do you do when your feelings are hurt?

What do you do when your feelings are hurt?

Do you tell the person who hurt you? I don’t. I just realized this the other day. Sometimes, when I’ve been approached by my husband who either senses something is wrong or has his own bone to pick with me, I’ll share my hurt feelings, but other than that, I don’t...

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Labels are helpful until they aren’t

Labels are helpful until they aren’t

We just love our labels, don’t we?  He’s a narcissist. She’s codependent. They’re stonewalling. I think it’s because we’re seeking to understand ourselves and each other. We want to know why we do the things we do. We want to make sense of our experience. Let’s say,...

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Do we have to feel negative emotions?

Do we have to feel negative emotions?

I recently attended a friend’s memorial. In a room filled with so much love, I understood the choice I had in that moment. Not that I have a choice about grief. That feels like it’s lying in wait to come racing to the surface anytime I have a random thought that makes...

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Well, aren’t you superior

Well, aren’t you superior

Have you ever told yourself you should forgive someone because they didn’t know any better? Given yourself a pep talk that they’ve been so hurt or broken by life that you should be the bigger person and forgive? It can feel good. It feels good to be forgiving. It...

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Rebuilding Broken Trust

Rebuilding Broken Trust

Trust gets broken sometimes. It doesn’t have to be a big, horrible betrayal either. It can happen when we’ve been emotionally abandoned or when a loyalty we thought was rock solid turned out to be false. One of my biggest gut punches happened when I found out a...

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How to Make a Good Apology

How to Make a Good Apology

Making a good apology is one of the most critical relationship skills but so many people get it wrong. What they don’t realize is that they actually make everything a lot worse when they don’t do it or do it poorly. One of the ways we build trust in our relationships...

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