The Danger of Deprivation

The Danger of Deprivation

I think deprivation is one of the most dangerous feelings out there. It might be worse than scarcity. Here’s the distinction. Scarcity feels like there isn’t enough to go around. Deprivation feels like I’m not worthy of what’s all around me. When you see abundance...

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Who’s in charge of your calendar?

Who’s in charge of your calendar?

My parents don’t guilt trip about holidays. Not even a whiff of a guilt trip.  If we can be together, awesome. But there has never been a requirement or even a request. Requests are the worst when you don’t want to do them. You have to either disappoint the other...

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I’m coming back

I’m coming back

My husband stood in the doorway looking at us, and I’ll never forget what he said… “You’re lucky that baby is so cute, because he’s ruining our marriage.” I was sitting in bed feeding our third son and I wasn’t just tired, I was weary in every cell of my body. During...

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No ifs, ands, or buts

No ifs, ands, or buts

It’s NOvember! Someone once introduced me to the concept of saying NO for this entire month as a way of resetting priorities.  I don’t normally recommend coming at things sideways but instead of having to say something you’re not ready to say or have to make up an...

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One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

“I can’t wait for this to be over.” We’ve all had a thought like that when it feels like we’re drowning in the middle of a dark moment in life. Those thoughts aren’t the actual experience we’re having though. They are what we are thinking about the experience we are...

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The Choice is Yours

The Choice is Yours

Every once in a while, we need to do a relationship inventory. This type of inventory depends on what we want to measure, and today I invite you to measure your feeling of choice vs. obligation. Technically, we are the ones deciding to be in every single one of our...

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