I’m coming back

I’m coming back

My husband stood in the doorway looking at us, and I’ll never forget what he said… “You’re lucky that baby is so cute, because he’s ruining our marriage.” I was sitting in bed feeding our third son and I wasn’t just tired, I was weary in every cell of my body. During...
Five Ways to Keep your Cool in an Argument

Five Ways to Keep your Cool in an Argument

You can walk into a conversation with the most loving intentions but when the other person pushes your buttons, it’s all too easy to fall into an unhealthy trap. Having an auto-response (even just to repeat in your head) can be incredibly helpful for staying on the...
Five Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Anger

Five Questions to Ask Yourself About Your Anger

Anger is unpleasant in all shapes and forms. Whether it’s a bubbling pool of lava beneath the surface or a full-blown eruption, it doesn’t feel good. Not for the person feeling it and not for anybody around them. What’s interesting about anger is how often it...
Emotional Manipulation

Emotional Manipulation

I got mad at my husband this morning. He didn’t do something he was supposed to do and I ended up having to do it. Like super mad. It happens in relationships. I’m human. So is he. But then I stayed mad. Being a coach, it’s just become a habit to mentally dig into my...
Why Won’t You Get Mad with Me?

Why Won’t You Get Mad with Me?

The other day I was accused of “refusing to engage in mutual outrage”. Now at first glance, this seems to align pretty well with my values. I don’t like feeling outraged. Outrage has all kinds of things that I would rather not participate in…negativity, criticism,...