How to Stop Focusing on What You Don’t Have

How to Stop Focusing on What You Don’t Have

We get sad because we see a hole where we think something should be. A partner. A lifestyle. A feeling. You might notice the hole because of a loss. Something you want was there before. It’s also possible that the hole has never been filled; you know it’s there...
What is it that makes us happy?

What is it that makes us happy?

It’s completely normal to feel scarcity. Maybe it’s money. Maybe it’s physical fitness. Maybe it’s a relationship. We want more of it and when we look around, we don’t have it. The problem is that we are seeing an illusion. What we see when we look around is the...
Four Stages of Religious Departure

Four Stages of Religious Departure

I was raised Catholic but do not consider myself Catholic anymore. Leaving my religion has been a lifetime process and one that has been both challenging and liberating. When you are raised in a religion to the extent I was, it almost becomes woven into your DNA. It’s...
Easy is Boring

Easy is Boring

You could be a best-selling author. Think about your life as a page-turner, the most delicious novel you’ve ever read. It’s got all the good stuff: drama, joy, comedy, conflict and resolution, themes, villains, and most importantly, a hero. You are the hero. If you...
Ho’oponopono

Ho’oponopono

We’re going to screw up. We just are. We’ve got certain standards we want to live up to and when we fall short, it hurts. We can try our best not to judge ourselves but we will. And then judge ourselves for judging ourselves! It’s okay. We’re human. You are going to...