No ifs, ands, or buts

No ifs, ands, or buts

It’s NOvember! Someone once introduced me to the concept of saying NO for this entire month as a way of resetting priorities.  I don’t normally recommend coming at things sideways but instead of having to say something you’re not ready to say or have to make up an...
One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

“I can’t wait for this to be over.” We’ve all had a thought like that when it feels like we’re drowning in the middle of a dark moment in life. Those thoughts aren’t the actual experience we’re having though. They are what we are thinking about the experience we are...
Crystal Clear

Crystal Clear

Happy birthday to me! If you’ve known me for a while, you know I always choose a birthday word. September 13 is almost here, so it’s time to choose what will guide me on my forty-seventh trip around the sun. “Clarity” has risen to the top. I don’t often pause for...
In gratitude for ugly emotions

In gratitude for ugly emotions

Jealousy and disgust are two emotions I like to keep a close eye on. They feel pretty ugly, so that’s one reason. But I have a couple of other reasons, as well. Strong feelings of any kind usually motivate us to act in some way. When we feel unpleasant emotions, we’re...
I’ve Been a Bad Friend

I’ve Been a Bad Friend

In this lifetime, I haven’t been very good at emotions. Not feeling them, not identifying them, and definitely not sharing them. Much of my personal work has focused on this area and that last one about sharing my emotions is a huge stretch for me. It’s just so...