Trigger Me This

Trigger Me This

I love getting emotionally triggered. I mean, I don’t love it like I want more of it. It’s more like a failed experiment. It kind of sucks but you gather lots of good information. It’s never about what the other person did or who is right or wrong. It’s really just...
Emotional Manipulation

Emotional Manipulation

I got mad at my husband this morning. He didn’t do something he was supposed to do and I ended up having to do it. Like super mad. It happens in relationships. I’m human. So is he. But then I stayed mad. Being a coach, it’s just become a habit to mentally dig into my...
What is it that makes us happy?

What is it that makes us happy?

It’s completely normal to feel scarcity. Maybe it’s money. Maybe it’s physical fitness. Maybe it’s a relationship. We want more of it and when we look around, we don’t have it. The problem is that we are seeing an illusion. What we see when we look around is the...
Why Won’t You Get Mad with Me?

Why Won’t You Get Mad with Me?

The other day I was accused of “refusing to engage in mutual outrage”. Now at first glance, this seems to align pretty well with my values. I don’t like feeling outraged. Outrage has all kinds of things that I would rather not participate in…negativity, criticism,...
Cross My Heart and Hope to Die

Cross My Heart and Hope to Die

For months, I have wanted to create a new habit of waking up at 5:00 to meditate and write. But I haven’t been successful. Well, some days I am successful. In fact, sometimes I go for weeks being successful. But the system always fails at some point 100% of the time....