No ifs, ands, or buts

No ifs, ands, or buts

It’s NOvember! Someone once introduced me to the concept of saying NO for this entire month as a way of resetting priorities.  I don’t normally recommend coming at things sideways but instead of having to say something you’re not ready to say or have to make up an...
One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

One trick to squeeze excitement out of dread

“I can’t wait for this to be over.” We’ve all had a thought like that when it feels like we’re drowning in the middle of a dark moment in life. Those thoughts aren’t the actual experience we’re having though. They are what we are thinking about the experience we are...
Crystal Clear

Crystal Clear

Happy birthday to me! If you’ve known me for a while, you know I always choose a birthday word. September 13 is almost here, so it’s time to choose what will guide me on my forty-seventh trip around the sun. “Clarity” has risen to the top. I don’t often pause for...
How to Stop Focusing on What You Don’t Have

How to Stop Focusing on What You Don’t Have

We get sad because we see a hole where we think something should be. A partner. A lifestyle. A feeling. You might notice the hole because of a loss. Something you want was there before. It’s also possible that the hole has never been filled; you know it’s there...
Five Ways to Keep your Cool in an Argument

Five Ways to Keep your Cool in an Argument

You can walk into a conversation with the most loving intentions but when the other person pushes your buttons, it’s all too easy to fall into an unhealthy trap. Having an auto-response (even just to repeat in your head) can be incredibly helpful for staying on the...